For An Injured Son, Caring Mom Is 'The Picture Of Unconditional Love'
Ten years ago, Sean Carter was a student at Midwestern State University majoring in business administration.
One night, he was riding in a car with a friend who had been drinking. They crashed and Carter was left in a wheelchair with a traumatic brain injury. He's been unable to walk or talk since and his mom, Jenny, has been his caretaker.
"What were you feeling when you found out I had been in a car wreck?" Sean asks his mom during a recent visit to StoryCorps in Dallas. Sean speaks by using his finger to type words onto an iPad. Those words are then translated into audio.
"I was devastated," Jenny says. "It was just so hard seeing your child's lifeless body in a bed for so long. You couldn't do anything for two years."
Over the years, Sam has become more independent, though he says he's not yet ready to do everything alone.
"It's kind of hard living with your mom 24/7 when you're 32 years old," Jenny says, while Sean laughs and replies, "Hell yeah!"
But the hardest things about his life, he says, have been not having friends and not being in love.
"I would be willing to bet I would have been married by now, with kids like my two brothers have," Sean said.
"As your mom, Sean, that's probably one of the hardest things for me. The pain that I have because it hasn't happened for you," says Jenny, 63. She then asks her son, if this was their last conversation, what would Sean want to say?
"Let me stop you right there," Sean tells his mom. "I know you will be here for many years to come.
"But I want you to know how thankful I am for what you have done for me. You gave up your life to give me a life," he continues.
"Yeah. But it's OK," Jenny responds. "Time's really the value commodity that we have, and if you can share time with somebody else, that's probably the most important thing you can do for someone. It's the only thing that matters."
Sean replies, "I don't say this enough. You're the picture of unconditional love. I admire your commitment to be the best damn mom you can be, and you do a damn fine job. I love you beyond the moon and back."
Produced for Morning Edition by Jasmyn Belcher Morris.
StoryCorps is a national nonprofit that gives people the chance to interview friends and loved ones about their lives. These conversations are archived at the American Folklife Center at the Library of Congress, allowing participants to leave a legacy for future generations. Learn more, including how to interview someone in your life, at StoryCorps.org.
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Transcript
DAVID GREENE, HOST:
Friday means it is time for StoryCorps. And today, we hear from a man in Texas who speaks through a computer.
SEAN CARTER: Hi, my name is Sean Carter. I am here with my mom, Jenny Carter.
GREENE: Ten years ago, Sean was a college student in Wichita Falls, Texas. One night, he was riding in a car with a friend who had been drinking. They crashed, and Sean was left with a traumatic brain injury. He's been unable to walk or talk since. His mom, Jenny, has been his caretaker. And they spoke at StoryCorps in Dallas.
S. CARTER: What were you feeling when you found out I had been in a car wreck?
JENNY CARTER: I was devastated. It was just so hard seeing your child's lifeless body in a bed for so long. You couldn't do anything for two years. But I think - you know, we've accomplished quite a bit together in the last 10 years.
S. CARTER: I'm certainly not ready to do everything alone, but I do so much for myself now.
J. CARTER: It's kind of hard living with your mom 24/7 when you're 32 years old.
S. CARTER: [Bleep] yeah.
J. CARTER: (Laughter).
What's been the hardest moment for you?
S. CARTER: I'm not sure I could even choose one particular thing. I certainly miss having friends. I miss being in love. I would be willing to bet I would've been married by now with kids, like my two brothers have.
J. CARTER: As your mom, Sean, that's probably one of the hardest things for me is the pain that I have because it hasn't happened for you.
If this was to be our last conversation, what would you say to me?
S. CARTER: Let me stop you right there. I know you will be here for many years to come, but I want you to know how thankful I am for what you have done for me. You gave up your life to give me a life.
J. CARTER: Yeah, but it's OK. Time's really the valuable commodity that we have, and if you can share that time with somebody else, that's probably the most important thing you can do for someone. It's the only thing that matters.
S. CARTER: I don't say this enough. I admire your commitment to be the best [bleep] mom you can be, and you do a [bleep] fine job. You are the picture of unconditional love. I love you beyond the moon and back.
J. CARTER: Thank you, son.
GREENE: That's Jenny Carter with her son Sean at StoryCorps in Dallas. This conversation will be archived at the American Folklife Center at the Library of Congress. And the StoryCorps podcast is on iTunes and at npr.org. Transcript provided by NPR, Copyright NPR.
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